My fiance and I are Christian and having sex and my mom found out. Now she ignores me and is mad. Help?

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Cara

My fiance and I are engaged and we are planning on getting married next spring. We are both committed to each other and are the loves of each others lives. Since the first time that we had met we knew that we were the ones for each other. We dated for a year and a half and he asked me to marry him. We are both Christian as well and have a relationship with God. Almost a year ago we decided that we wanted to take our love to the next level and we made love and both of us lost our virginity's to each other. We have been having sex since then because we love each other so much. His mom knows that we have sex and is ok with it as long as we use protection. Recently, my fiance moved into an apartment to be closer to school and work and I was going to move in with him to be closer to my school and work as well. My fiance (boyfriend at the time) had bought me some lingerie but I only wore it once a while back and it was put into a walmart bag and placed into my closet so that I could later pack it in with my stuff for moving day. Well, I totally forgot about it and it was left in my closet and my sister had told me that my mom found it and was in complete disgusted and was really mad and upset about it. She was angry that I was having sex before marriage. My mom is also a Christian but is VERY judgmental of what her kids do. She wont talk to me or try to come talk to me about it and Im scared that she will treat my fiance like crap now when she adored him before. Ive been really depressed since then and I feel like she doesn't love me anymore and that God is doing to the same because I had sex before marriage even though he is going to BE my husband after we finish with school. I feel like she treats me like a horny teenager even though Im 21 and my fiance is almost 24. Im an adult but she does'nt treat me like one. I know my mom and if I try and talk to her she just going to ignore or yell at me. What should I do? I feel like it could affect the wedding i the future as well.

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I understand exactly what you're going through except I'm a teenager and my mom is just extremely strict and conservative..
The only way you can change the direction of this situation is talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel. Like go to her and ask her if you can have lunch out with her. Then sit her down and make sure she's listening to every word you have to say. Explain to her that your love with your fiancé is real, your relationship is serious and committed, making love was inevitable. You're both grown ups and you understand the consequences. You're not being reckless, just natural. Tell her that it wasn't just sex, it was an act of love.
Most parents are super edgy now that this generation exposes sex and nudity and love like it's a picnic. Explain to her that that's not how it is for you and your man. Also, tell her that your relationship with her is important to you. You need her, her love and her support. She's your mom. She should love you unconditionally as you do for her. And your fiancé is not a different man just because physical love happened. He's still the man she adores. Compared to nearly every other couple out there, the love you and your fiancé have is sincere and mutual, serious and committed. You see all these other girls becoming porn stars and nude models when they turn 18, boys going to strip clubs and going prostitutes at 18... Getting covered head to toe in piercings and tattoos, shaving half their heads... I live in vegas believe me when I say that is true. You two have a relationship that's real and moral. Has your mom ever done anything a little "different" or "rebellious" out of excitement or high emotions? It's only human to do that. Explain that to her. I'm sure she's adjusting and will adjust. Good luck x

Something I could use instead of Hershey's kisses?

Alissa

This may seem like a bit of a silly question but, I am looking for a legit answer. I want to send someone some Hershey's kisses in the mail - but I'm afraid they will melt. What is a good, non-perishable food that I could send instead of the Kisses? I don't want some random food - it needs to have some meaning, like Kisses = love and all that. Also something not too big or expensive please, I'm sending a large quantity. :)

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=== the biggest wall of candy is in Walmart .... so you gotta go and look ..... you can probably go to the local candy wholesalers and get some Valentine HEARTS -- the kine that have cute sayings printed on the tops .... if you are shipping to overseas military-man then M&M's will work and you can get a box of the ""lunch bag size"" and put notes on each bag... hope something helps you ,,,,

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